How to Build a Ritual You Can Actually Stick To

Because You Deserve Softness That’s Sustainable, Not Stressful

Let’s be honest for a second. We’ve all had that moment where we set up this beautiful self-care routine — candles lit, face mask on, maybe even a journal nearby — and then…

Life. Happens.

You oversleep. You’re tired. The kids need something. Work’s overwhelming. And that whole dreamy routine? Gone.

The truth is: most people don’t fall off self-care because they don’t care. They fall off because their routine wasn’t built for their real life.

So let’s fix that.

In this post, I’m walking you through how to create a realistic, repeatable, soul-feeding ritual — one that fits into your life, not just your Pinterest board.

✨ First: Stop Calling It a Routine

The word “routine” feels rigid. It sounds like another task on the to-do list.

But a ritual? That hits different. A ritual is personal. It’s sacred. It’s something you do with intention.

When you treat your skincare and self-care like a ritual — not just another box to check — you show up differently. You move slower. You breathe deeper. You connect.

🧖🏾‍♀️ Step 1: Keep It Short & Soulful

A lot of people think self-care has to take hours or involve 15 products. That’s not realistic — and it’s why most folks don’t keep up with it.

Your ritual doesn’t have to be long to be powerful.

Start with something simple like this:

Morning Ritual (10–15 minutes):

• Wash your face with intention

• Apply a hydrating moisturizer or butter while saying an affirmation

• Take three deep breaths before you grab your phone

Evening Ritual (15–20 minutes):

• Shower or soak with calming music

• Exfoliate 2–3x a week with a sugar scrub

• Massage body butter into your skin — starting from your feet up

• Write 3 things you're grateful for in your journal

That’s it. No pressure. No guilt if you miss a day. Just small acts of care that add up over time.

✍🏾 Step 2: Attach It to Something You Already Do

If you’re trying to create a new ritual from scratch, it helps to connect it to a habit that already exists. This is called habit stacking — and it works.

Examples:

• After brushing your teeth → apply your face oil while saying an affirmation

• After your evening shower → journal for 5 minutes while your skin drinks in the butter

• After putting the kids to bed → light your candle, sip tea, and breathe

You don’t need to reinvent your day — just infuse what’s already happening with more intention.

🕯 Step 3: Create a Vibe That Feels Like You

Listen — not everyone needs a spa playlist and rose petals. But your environment does matter.

Even the smallest ritual feels more grounding when you:

• Light a candle you actually love

• Set your product out on a pretty tray

• Put on music that matches your mood

• Wrap your robe around you like it’s armor

Make it feel like your space.Because when it feels good? You’ll keep doing it.

🧴 Step 4: Use Products You Actually Look Forward To

This one’s huge. If your skincare feels like a chore, you’re less likely to stick with it.

But when it feels luxurious, clean, and calming? That’s motivation in a jar.

All of our products at JAK’s Essentials are made with this in mind. No junk. No guesswork. No irritation. Just real results and rich textures that make you want to pause and pour into yourself.

✨ Try this ritual combo:

• Scrub to reset

• Whipped Body Butter to restore

• Embracing Your Essence Book + Journal to reconnect

That’s the whole ritual, start to finish — built with care and purpose.

🧠 Step 5: Be Flexible Without Falling Off

One of the most powerful things you can do is remove the “all or nothing” mindset.

Your ritual isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being present.

Missed a day? Cool. Pick it up tomorrow. Skipped journaling? Maybe just stretch and breathe instead. Too tired to scrub? Light a candle and sit still for 5 minutes.

Care doesn’t have to be complicated to count.

💬 Step 6: Reflect + Adjust Every Week

What worked? What didn’t? What felt good? What felt like a chore?

Every Sunday or Monday, take 3 minutes to check in with yourself. Ask: What do I need this week?Then build your rituals around that.

This is how your routine evolves with you instead of becoming another “thing” you gave up on.

✨ Your Ritual, Your Rules

There’s no right way to glow. But there is a way to create a ritual that:

✔ Makes you feel more grounded

✔ Keeps your skin soft and nourished

✔ Feels like a little pocket of peace in the middle of your chaos

And once that becomes your norm? Everything else shifts.

🌿 Ready to Build a Ritual That Sticks?

Here’s where to start:

✅ Take the Glow Quiz to find the right ritual for your skin type and lifestyl

e✅ Grab the Glow Bundle for everything you need to get started

✅ Download our Weekly Ritual Tracker (coming soon!) to keep it cute and consistent

[Glow Quiz + Glow Bundle]

Final Thoughts: This is your reminder that self-care isn’t extra — it’s essential. And building a ritual that works for you? That’s your power move.

It’s not about how long it takes.It’s about how good it makes you feel.

Keep it simple. Keep it soulful. Keep showing up for you.

— T. Brown